Welcome to my e modules for self coaching.  For those new to coaching working through these modules can prove to be an economic way to zone into important areas to bring to a coaching conversations.  It will bring to mind and highlight the areas you most want to work on.  These modules will often be incorporated into your home work outside your session.  So if you work on them prior to your coaching session, you will save time and money and reach your goals more quickly.

Have you found yourself unhappy with your lot?

Are you living a life that found you?

Did you have a dream that is unfulfilled?

Has your life lost meaning?

Are you a Big fish in a small pond? 

Would you like to first imagine then experience how it is to be a small fish in a big pond.  To push your boundary to consider how life could be outside your small pond. Dipping your toe in that big pond.

How coaching lets us test the waters.

Coaching challenges you to first test the water outside your comfort zone then assists you to motivate yourself to move outside your comfort zone. In so doing you expand your comfort zone.

How we keep ourselves within our comfort zone.

We have adapted to use tools and resources to keep ourselves within this zone.

• Self limiting belief.
• problem creator instead of problem solver.
• Allowing fear to win.
• Procrastination.
• We become defensive instead of optimistic.
• Learnt helplessness
• Perfectionism

Where did these tools come from

Our experiences and culture teach us to want to stay in our comfort zone. We develop systems of thinking which ones served us but if we become discontented they stop serving us.

What is outside your comfort zone?

• infinite possibility!
• your full potential?
• happiness?
• Challenge!
• Meaning and Purpose!

How do I get outside my comfort zone.

To have total understanding of who you are when you are at your best.

To understand what you value and your strengths.

To discover a purpose beyond yourself.

We are all individually unique, our experiences of the world are distinctly varied, featuring many random chance events, through our experience we build unique models of our own reality. These models influence our thinking patterns and behaviours.  These are both behaviours we want to maintain and develop plus behaviours and patterns we may want to change.

Clean language honours your uniqueness. When we explain our reality, we use metaphors such as “between a rock and a hard place”, “time keeps running away”, “I’m in touch” and many more subtle versions. When explored it is possible to shine a light on systems of thinking. Clean language allows you to explore your personal thinking system giving you insight into yourself, your personal resources and your behaviours. The questions are specially designed to remove the possibility of external influence during coaching on your thoughts, objectives or situation. As facilitator I reflect back your words to allow you to absorb yourself in your thinking, enabling you to step into your metaphoric world, letting you understand you.

Conventional coaching requires you to push for a goal and consciously make a change.  This can proof extremely difficult when you don’t understand what is blocking or stopping you.  Clean language on the other hand allows you only to state a desired outcome, then through an exploration of your metaphors you learn to understand your personal systems and memories of their origins may become apparent to you.  Opening you to the opportunity to adapt your system to serve you better or move past the system and create a completely new system.

If you are interested in experiencing this method, we could try focusing on something simple that you want more of for 15-20 minutes and see if you find it useful.  Add I want more ……….. in the discount code to arrange a 15-20 minute trial session.

• Is your home or life empty?
• Can you see yourself heading for a life you hate?
• Are you in a life you hate?
• Are you sitting on the wave of a life that chose you, rather than the wave you chose?
• Does someone else make your decisions in life?
• Has one of life’s chapters finished and another one about to begin?

Candice a Psychology Graduate at 40!

Personal Leadership for Identity and purpose beyond yourself.

For anybody who is  30 something, Elizabeth  Gilbert’s biography Eat, Pray, Love, has been a wake up call to take action now.  Time moves so fast don’t wait and wake up at 40 with a life you hate.

The key to a life you love, is to answer life’s big questions.

• Who am I when I’m at my best?
• What do I value?
• What is my life’s purpose beyond myself?

Without answers to these questions a significant life event can throw our lives into chaos such as:

• Finding yourself with an empty nest.
• Turning “noughty”. (30, 40, 50, 60)
• Separation or divorce.
• returning to study after a long break.
• Moving from employee to business owner or entrepreneurship.
• job or role change.
• Moving town or country.

Can you answer these questions? If not consider my personal leadership programme

If you can’t or you don’t like your answers the first step is to discover who you are when you are at your best, for some tips for way to go about finding yourself download  101 ways to discover yourself at 30 something.

If you can answer these questions are you living them? If not, why not create the life you love!

Are you living your dream? 

The life you love which incorporates 1 or more of the below are areas  I specialise in:

• moving country
• Becoming a mature student
• Starting a small business or moving to entrepreneurship.
• Taking a sabbatical or gap year.
• simplifying your life
• becoming more spiritual

If you have your answers but are not living by them and would like the support of a coach contact me to discuss your coaching packages requirements.

if you are a little bit unsure consider subscribing to my self coaching packages every little helps.

Or you could consider trying coaching on for size and take a single session with a focus of either finding a new perspective or inner awareness.

Understanding who you are, what motivates you, why you react in certain situations is all beneficial to performance and personal development.  It is often over looked in our everyday lives as we push for goals and achieving targets.  For many of us understanding ourselves better could be the key to finding our own resources to make our lives easier to manage.

These are individual coaching session for inner awareness lasting from 1 1/2 to 2 hours.   Sessions are scheduled when required and are not used in conjunction with a package.

try out an inner awareness coaching session.

Would you benefit from an inner awareness session?  Do any of the following apply to you?

• Do you find yourself procrastinating even though you have an objective?
• Do you find barriers instead of possibility in every situation?
• Do you find yourself repeating the same actions knowing you will get the same results but are unsure how to go about changing it?
• Are you defensive instead of reflective when others are critical?

Mindfulness means inner awareness but the word mindfulness is more closely associated as a meditation technique within Buddhism than coaching.  When used as a form of meditation, Buddhist monks focus attention on their steps as they walk, their food as they chew and their breath as well as chanting mantras. Since Buddhism is a philosophy rather than a religion it is easy to incorporate the techniques into everyday life.

Benefits of Mindfulness

• When used in everyday life mindfulness is an effective stress buster.
• Very effective relaxation technique good to use when moving from work to home life.
• It can assist in removing the excessive chatter that goes on inside ones head.
• Changing negative thoughts into positive thoughts.
• When practiced it can assist with focusing on a single task.
• If practiced well practitioners can experience transcendence.

Some simple mindfulness Self coaching Exercises.

How to add mindful inner awareness to your day.  Try practicing for 20 minutes twice a day.  It is important to remove all other interruptions for the period you choose to be mindful.  For your body to be truly mindful it is beneficial to practice prior to eating a meal rather than just after.

• Raise your awareness of a positive topic or assignment and focus only on topic.
• Sit with your eyes closed and hum like a bee taking a breath through the nose when necessary or repeat a sound in your head which resonates positively with you.  Om is a commonly used mantra in meditation.
• Sit with your eyes closed and concentrate on your breath. breath in for the count of 10 and out for the count of 1o.   It is important that when you take your breaths you are not only filling your chest but your stomach is rising and falling with each breath.
• When cooking be mindful of what you are doing focus on the ingredients and cook with love and nutrition in mind.

In coaching

Experienced practitioners can offer guided meditations which can assist people with using mindfulness in everyday life.

Clean coaching techniques use a focusing technique which allows you to zone in on a topic or area you want to improve allowing you to tap into your inner knowing and intuition and discover new ways to approach situations.

Try a new perspective coaching session for the promotion of inner awareness. 

Finding a new perspective in a situation is difficult for someone who is entrenched in the situation.

Those around you are also connected to the issue and have a stake in your decisions and the outcome. In this type of situation finding a new perspective through coaching is the optimal choice.

These are individual 1 1/2 to 2 hours sessions scheduled when required.

Do any of these apply to you?

• Are you at an unwelcome cross-roads in your career, life, work or relationship?
• Or would you like to start a new chapter but fear of the unknown is holding you back?
• Would you like to embark on a new adventure but don’t know what?
• Are you, your company or your business going through transition or entering a new chapter?

If you answered yes to some or all of the above questions.

Are you prepared to economise in one area of your life, in order to benefit all areas of your life? For example would you consider taking your own lunch and coffee to work instead of buying from the fancy deli, coaching can cost as little as that.

Would you like to try out coaching but don’t have a long term goal you want to achieve yet?

If you have a situation or problem that you would like to find solutions for try out a new perspective coaching session.

If you would like to book a finding a new perspective coaching session. please click on the link.

‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.’ Carl Jung

Clean was developed by New Zealand Psychologist and Psychotherapist David Grove.  These tools are non-directive, meaning that the coachee finds the answers for themselves.

Emergent Knowledge

By using iterative and repetitive questions new insights can emerge in relation to the point of inquiry which is usually a goal, objective or a problem.

Clean language

Can be used during any coaching session to reduce directive influence on you the coachee, allowing you to find your own solutions.

Clean space

Some of the clean tools used will encourage movement.  By moving yourself or your point of inquiry to different spaces. You can gain a different perspective.

The benefit of clean methods

This particular method of coaching can reduce the number of sessions required considerably, to reach your goal, objective or solution to your problem.it is even possible that only one session is required to solve something which has plagued you for many years.

The clean method removes completely the influence of the coach entirely.