• Have you read every self help book there is going, but still looking for answers to life’s big questions? Who am I? What do I want? What is my purpose?
• Have you followed many  ”how to” programmes, but still nothing has worked for you?
• Can you see yourself heading for a life you hate?
• Are you sitting on the wave of a life that chose you, rather than the wave you chose?
• Does someone else make your decisions in life?

Candice a Psychology Graduate at 40!

For anybody who is  30 something, Elizabeth  Gilbert’s biography Eat, Pray, Love, has been a wake up call to take action now.  Time moves so fast don’t wait and wake up at 40 with a life you hate.

The key to a life you love, is to answer life’s big questions.

• Who am I?
• What do I want?
• What is my life’s purpose?

Without answers to these questions a significant life event can throw our lives into chaos such as:

• Turning 40.
• Separation or divorce.
• returning to study after a long break.
• Moving from employee to business owner or entrepreneurship.
• job or role change.
• Moving town or country.

Can you answer these questions?
Who are you?
What do you want?
What is your life purpose?

If you can’t or you don’t like your answers the first step is to discover who you are for some tips for way to go about finding yourself download  101 ways to discover yourself at 30 something.

If you can answer these questions are you living them?

Are you living your dream? – Let’s make it happen.

When we move from what we know to the unknown there is a significant fear we create self limiting believes and venture only within our comfort zone.

The areas of transition I specialise in are:

• Living the life you love.
• Simplifying your life.
• Cross cultural transitions.
• Becoming a mature student for skills improvement.
• Starting a small business or moving to entrepreneurship.
• Taking a sabbatical or gap year.

If you have your answers but are not living by them and would like the support of a coach contact me to discuss your coaching packages requirements.

if you are a little bit unsure consider subscribing to my self coaching packages every little helps.

Or you could consider trying coaching on for size and take a single session with a focus of either finding a new perspective or inner awareness.

Understanding who you are, what motivates you, why you react in certain situations is all beneficial to performance and personal development.  It is often over looked in our everyday lives as we push for goals and achieving targets.  For many of us understanding ourselves better could be the key to finding our own resources to make our lives easier to manage.

These are individual coaching session for inner awareness lasting from 1 1/2 to 2 hours.   Sessions are scheduled when required and are not used in conjunction with a package.

try out an inner awareness coaching session.

Would you benefit from an inner awareness session?  Do any of the following apply to you?

• Do you find yourself procrastinating even though you have an objective?
• Do you find barriers instead of possibility in every situation?
• Do you find yourself repeating the same actions knowing you will get the same results but are unsure how to go about changing it?
• Are you defensive instead of reflective when others are critical?

Mindfulness means inner awareness but the word mindfulness is more closely associated as a meditation technique within Buddhism than coaching.  When used as a form of meditation, Buddhist monks focus attention on their steps as they walk, their food as they chew and their breath as well as chanting mantras. Since Buddhism is a philosophy rather than a religion it is easy to incorporate the techniques into everyday life.

Benefits of Mindfulness

• When used in everyday life mindfulness is an effective stress buster.
• Very effective relaxation technique good to use when moving from work to home life.
• It can assist in removing the excessive chatter that goes on inside ones head.
• Changing negative thoughts into positive thoughts.
• When practiced it can assist with focusing on a single task.
• If practiced well practitioners can experience transcendence.

Some simple mindfulness Self coaching Exercises.

How to add mindful inner awareness to your day.  Try practicing for 20 minutes twice a day.  It is important to remove all other interruptions for the period you choose to be mindful.  For your body to be truly mindful it is beneficial to practice prior to eating a meal rather than just after.

• Raise your awareness of a positive topic or assignment and focus only on topic.
• Sit with your eyes closed and hum like a bee taking a breath through the nose when necessary or repeat a sound in your head which resonates positively with you.  Om is a commonly used mantra in meditation.
• Sit with your eyes closed and concentrate on your breath. breath in for the count of 10 and out for the count of 1o.   It is important that when you take your breaths you are not only filling your chest but your stomach is rising and falling with each breath.
• When cooking be mindful of what you are doing focus on the ingredients and cook with love and nutrition in mind.

In coaching

Experienced practitioners can offer guided meditations which can assist people with using mindfulness in everyday life.

Clean coaching techniques use a focusing technique which allows you to zone in on a topic or area you want to improve allowing you to tap into your inner knowing and intuition and discover new ways to approach situations.

Try a new perspective coaching session for the promotion of inner awareness. 

Finding a new perspective in a situation is difficult for someone who is entrenched in the situation.

Those around you are also connected to the issue and have a stake in your decisions and the outcome. In this type of situation finding a new perspective through coaching is the optimal choice.

These are individual 1 1/2 to 2 hours sessions scheduled when required.

Do any of these apply to you?

• Are you at an unwelcome cross-roads in your career, life, work or relationship?
• Or would you like to start a new chapter but fear of the unknown is holding you back?
• Would you like to embark on a new adventure but don’t know what?
• Are you, your company or your business going through transition or entering a new chapter?

If you answered yes to some or all of the above questions.

Are you prepared to economise in one area of your life, in order to benefit all areas of your life? For example would you consider taking your own lunch and coffee to work instead of buying from the fancy deli, coaching can cost as little as that.

Would you like to try out coaching but don’t have a long term goal you want to achieve yet?

If you have a situation or problem that you would like to find solutions for try out a new perspective coaching session.

If you would like to book a finding a new perspective coaching session. please click on the link.

‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.’ Carl Jung

Clean was developed by New Zealand Psychologist and Psychotherapist David Grove.  These tools are non-directive, meaning that the coachee finds the answers for themselves.

Emergent Knowledge

By using iterative and repetitive questions new insights can emerge in relation to the point of inquiry which is usually a goal, objective or a problem.

Clean language

Can be used during any coaching session to reduce directive influence on you the coachee, allowing you to find your own solutions.

Clean space

Some of the clean tools used will encourage movement.  By moving yourself or your point of inquiry to different spaces. You can gain a different perspective.

The benefit of clean methods

This particular method of coaching can reduce the number of sessions required considerably, to reach your goal, objective or solution to your problem.it is even possible that only one session is required to solve something which has plagued you for many years.

The clean method removes completely the influence of the coach entirely.

Life is about balance and to experience any extreme, no matter how good that extreme may be, can and will be detrimental to your happiness. If you have ever played the board game Rich Dad poor Dad or even been rich, you will understand that with money happiness does not follow. This realisation is an important step to attaining happiness.

In a time when the economy is in turmoil and many have taken great risk and lost so much perhaps bringing more balance to ones life will become the bonus of what may seem like dark times.

If you live outside your means you will never be happy. Make your life balanced ensure that you keep challenge in your life. If you surround yourself with everything you can never aspire to new highs. As we have seen all of that can disappear with a blink of an eye.

The true secret to happiness is to live a simple and wholesome life. Which as the buddha suggested has no ego and does no harm to others.

Values Inventory

When your coaching session is goal orientated meaning you have an objective that you want to work towards.  It is important to understand your values and then in turn your strengths.  When your goal is inline with your values and draws on your personal strengths, your life has meaning and purpose and you are more likely to be motivated to achieve your goal and as a consequence of meeting your goal you are more likely to experience intense happiness.

Do you know your core values?

Balancedlife options to discover your core values:

Self coaching – Subscribe to my e skills resource to discover your core values.

Would you like a 1-1 session to Find out more about your core values hire me as a coach for a balancedlife.

Do you know your goal and would like a package to support you to reach your goal.

“Until you value yourself, you will not value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.” M. Scott Peck

The wheel of life is a wagon wheel diagram with each divided spoke representing an area of your life.  The spoked segments are further divided into 10 to allow you to score the areas of your life.

1. Career

2. Money

3. Health

4. Friends and Family

5. Significant other and Romance

6. Personal Growth

7. Fun and Recreation

8. Physical Environment

This is a dynamic tool which can assist you to highlight the area of your life you want to improve and can allow you to measure your progress.