Victimisation Coaching is a type of life coaching that educates people who consider themselves as victims of crime or those who fear victimisation. Coaches work with groups of people to assist them on how to identify and approach potentially hazardous situations.
Perception and the importance of understanding how it effects missunderstandings.
Critical psychology teaches us that our social world and our perception of the world is based on our experiences and our experiences are based on our attitudes, culture and up bringing, which in turn are effected by culture and are historically contextual. It is important to understand that our perceptions do not in anyway reflect others perceptions, they are our own creations. It is further necessary to understand that no one directly verbalises their inner thoughts, fears and attitudes. These are entirely contextual and are based on the available information and what is the persons desired outcome of the communication.
When this is realised it is easy to understand how communication break downs can occur.
When you are requesting change first consider:
- If a person has prior experience of a negative situation regarding the topic under discussion it is most likely that they will form some prior assumptions before responding.
- When communicating anything to another person make sure that you break down any misunderstandings due to preconceived ideas.
How many times have you said or heard said “oh that is what you meant, I thought you were telling me ……
This occurs due to a persons brain fore-thinking what the other person is about to say this then forms the bases of what is said rather than what is actually said.
- This leads to our next recommendation for good communication which leads to true perception of the situation, which is actually listen when another person is speaking.
- another good idea is to ask for clarification or reiterate what is said.
So today we have looked at perceptions and how they can be altered but also how simple steps can allow much truer perceptions to be created and allowing for much less misunderstandings in our communications.
How to choose a Life coach and what type of Life coaching you require
Life coaching has become so popular in recent years that everybody is at it, either being one, using one or both, since everyone can benefit from coaching. The impact of its popularity leave many confused and can also lead to misunderstanding of the profession, many coaches are now choosing to specialise in areas such as writing, small business, spirituality, relationship, sabbatical coaching. Do not think that to get a life coach you need to know immediately what area of your life you want to work on if you are uncertain choose life/personal coaching, choose a Niche coach ones you have used a personal/life coach.
So how do you choose a coach well to begin with look at several of the bio pages of coaches there are several directories such as find a coach, Association for coaching
- Get a sense of the coach as a person.
- consider what style they use and then consider what style of coaching you have enjoyed in the past do you need somebody at you all the time, do you respond better if the person calm and laid back.
- Then try a few out most good coaches offer a free exploratory or trial session. Ones you have tried a few of these you will get an idea of the area you are interested in and the style that suits you.
- ask as many questions as possible before committing to that one coach.
- A large mistake would be to try too many coaches this will limit your progress and perhaps confuse you, in much the same way that asking 100 people for advice on the best cause of action with a problem, would have on your decision.
There are two broad areas of coaching executive coaching and Life/personal coaching these are relatively straight forward.
Other types of specialist coaching.
Relationship coaches – will focus on relationship perhaps not necessarily just romantic relationship.
Career coaching – This forwards your career.
Spiritual Life coaches will focus on the spiritual side of all aspects of your life adjusting your thinking to reflect a more spiritual path. This method can assist considerably with the life-work balance.
Sabbatical coaching – will assist you to make the most of a sabbatical.
Cross-cultural coaching - It should never be underestimated the stress a move can have on a person but imagine how much more stressful if can be to move culture entirely. This coaching is often solicited by companies for their employees.
Sports or exercise coaches will assist you optimise your health through exercise.
This list is endless but I have listed a few to give you an idea for inspiration.
Law of Attraction.
The law of attraction is a popular metaphysical thought on how things happen and are attained. A major resource on understanding the law of attraction is the movie “The Secret”. Which tells the story of a lady who discovers the power of the ancient idea of the law of attraction. It has a commentary of professionals confirming and explaining how it work.
The basic premise of the Law of Attraction is that whatever you focus on or ask for that is what you will receive. So if you tell yourself you are no good at Maths, that is what you will receive the lack of ability to do Maths.
Ways to harness the law of Attraction.
- Cultivating a positive self talk will allow you to focus on what you want rather than what you believe yourself to be.
- Write down what you want your life to be like in 3, 5 and 10 years time.
- Try to eliminate the self limiting words a person of low self esteem uses such as: can’t, only, just, when referring to yourself.
- Wish for what you want.
- Don’t think about anything you don’t want.
- Worry less about what you don’t have and focus more on what you want.
Relationship life coaching
When dealing with any situation, approach it with an open mind, addressing it as a problem which needs to be solved. You will then find yourself in a far greater position to deal with it. When a situation is approached in an emotional way it spirals out of control making it a problem creator rather than solver. An emotional response to any situation generally lead to a destructive chain reaction of he said, she said.
Life coaching is an effective way of assisting in changing the negative emotional thought pattern and generating a positive problem solving approach to any relationship. The most effective approach to this style of Life coaching is a cognitive-behavioural approach.
It must be noted however if your relationship has already spiralled out of control counselling maybe the best approach. When your relationships are again whole or you have broken free and wish to create new healthy relationships you are then able to use Life coaching.
If you recognise this pattern and would like to make the change contact me for a free initial life coaching session which will address the areas you want to change and I will make suggestions for the best approach for you.
To book a free initial session please email candice@balancedlife-coaching.com
Indifference the sign that a relationship is in jepardy!
Indifference is the sign that a relationship is in peril. Relationships and Marriage can survive many things particularly if both parties have interest in sustaining the relationship. The worst of course being infidelity. Arguments signify that emotions are still being felt even if they are projected in a negative way at least communication lines are still open however indifferences suggests that the person has ceased to care.
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Spiritual balance
Life coaching is becoming more and more popular as a means of reaching goals, but it is also a useful tool for improving your health.
Ayurveda the ancient health science of India is focused on balance. When the body mind and spirit are balanced good health prevails but when imbalance occurs dis-ease is caused. Never has it been more important for balance to be found in ones life, with economic uncertainty occupying the thoughts of everyone, imbalance is inevitable. In fact one ayurvedic dosha known as vata becomes imbalanced just through too much thought.
To add to this it is difficult to find an impartial confidant, in a world of high pace living, finding that personal space and a person to listen to your plans and dreams is hard especially if you are an intensely private person. What could be better than a life coach another human who is outside of your personal circle who can give you the positive reinforcements you require to achieve greatness or simply balance elements of your life. 
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Candyji, February 5th 2009 |
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