It is important when planning to achieve great things that we understand not only the processes people use to aid the attainment of goals but also the self defeating methods used to keep ourself constrained.
In this series of articles we will consider each side of the spectrum to begin with we look at how people become proficient at either achieving a goal or making up excuses for why they were not achieved.
Achievement or excuses.
You may wonder what type of subjects are discussed in a coaching conversation. Coaching is designed to be tailored to your requirements but these are a few possible topics which come up.
Making Change
Becoming unstuck
Life balance – Work-life-family or life-family
Relationships
Passion and values
Performance and stress
Direction and transition
Motivation
Fulfilling ones dreams
Forming personal goals and life plans
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Vygotsky’s Zone of Proximal Development claimed that children reach their full potential with extra assistance. suggesting the difference between being and reaching your potential is assistance. Children generally receive this from their teachers, parents or siblings as they learn through experience and stimulation. As we become adults we no longer have this support and settle into the development scope we have made for ourselves.
Basically Vygotsky claimed that we all under achieve on our own when unassisted however when a new perspective is added we challenge ourselves to achieve more.
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Critical psychology teaches us that our social world and our perception of the world is based on our experiences and our experiences are based on our attitudes, culture and up bringing, which in turn are effected by culture and are historically contextual. It is important to understand that our perceptions do not in anyway reflect others perceptions, they are our own creations. It is further necessary to understand that no one directly verbalises their inner thoughts, fears and attitudes. These are entirely contextual and are based on the available information and what is the persons desired outcome of the communication.
When this is realised it is easy to understand how communication break downs can occur.
When you are requesting change first consider:
How many times have you said or heard said “oh that is what you meant, I thought you were telling me ……
This occurs due to a persons brain fore-thinking what the other person is about to say this then forms the bases of what is said rather than what is actually said.
So today we have looked at perceptions and how they can be altered but also how simple steps can allow much truer perceptions to be created and allowing for much less misunderstandings in our communications.
A major feature of life coaching is goal setting. To get from where you are now to where you want to be you need to take steps if your goal is too far or too large you will get discouraged and the goal will loose its appeal. The best way to reach an ultimate goal is to set smaller goals which move you in the right direction.
An acronym used in management to facilitate goal setting is SMART.
Specific - You need to define your goal, the more specific you are the clearer the picture you will visualise.
Measurable - You need to be able to quantify your goal, so when you have reached it you will know. Identify how you can measure it.
Achievable - Be realistic, don’t set goals for yourself which are unattainable. If it seems to big or far away divide it in two and start with a smaller more achievable goal. Don’t ma
ke it too easy however you need to have a sense of achievement when it is met.
Relevant - Don’t forget the grand scheme goal. Is this goal relevant to get you to the grand scheme goal?
Time-bound - The goal needs a start and a finish defined. Goals without deadlines get lost in the day to day crisis’s of our lives always being put on the back burner.
Now think of something you want to achieve and apply these rules and see if you can achieve something new every month. The use of a life coach who will monitor your achievements keep you focused, motivated and on track is invaluable. Imagine what you can achieve with these resources in 12 months.
If you want to try out this resource with a free first session in life coaching please email for further details.
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Life coaching is becoming more and more popular as a means of reaching goals, but it is also a useful tool for improving your health.
Ayurveda the ancient health science of India is focused on balance. When the body mind and spirit are balanced good health prevails but when imbalance occurs dis-ease is caused. Never has it been more important for balance to be found in ones life, with economic uncertainty occupying the thoughts of everyone, imbalance is inevitable. In fact one ayurvedic dosha known as vata becomes imbalanced just through too much thought.
