It is important when planning to achieve great things that we understand not only the processes people use to aid the attainment of goals but also the self defeating methods used to keep ourself constrained.
In this series of articles we will consider each side of the spectrum to begin with we look at how people become proficient at either achieving a goal or making up excuses for why they were not achieved.
Achievement or excuses.
Victimisation Coaching is a type of life coaching that educates people who consider themselves as victims of crime or those who fear victimisation. Coaches work with groups of people to assist them on how to identify and approach potentially hazardous situations.
You may wonder what type of subjects are discussed in a coaching conversation. Coaching is designed to be tailored to your requirements but these are a few possible topics which come up.
Making Change
Becoming unstuck
Life balance – Work-life-family or life-family
Relationships
Passion and values
Performance and stress
Direction and transition
Motivation
Fulfilling ones dreams
Forming personal goals and life plans
If you would like to discuss possible topics you would like to address please email for a informal discussion of how coaching could work for you.
candice@balancedlife-coaching.com
Coaching is a co-active process whereby, through a series of discusses, greater understanding of the self can be attained. What ever reason you are thinking of hiring a coach without question you will develop a greater understanding of yourself and what motivates you. Even if your initial focus is to start a small business,relationships etc.
Some stats:
The ICF one of the associations for coaching in research found that 79% of those being coached sited self-esteem/self-confidence and 76% suggested work/life balance to be amongst their core motivations. Of those who suggested another form of focus 52% claimed to have experienced an improvement in self-esteem/self-confidence. (ICF 2009)
There are many other benefits of coaching this is just a snippet.
To find out more about coaching and what it can do for you why not book a free 30 min exploratory session email candice@balancedlife-coaching.com
Vygotsky’s Zone of Proximal Development claimed that children reach their full potential with extra assistance. suggesting the difference between being and reaching your potential is assistance. Children generally receive this from their teachers, parents or siblings as they learn through experience and stimulation. As we become adults we no longer have this support and settle into the development scope we have made for ourselves.
Basically Vygotsky claimed that we all under achieve on our own when unassisted however when a new perspective is added we challenge ourselves to achieve more.
To book a free 30 min exploratory life coaching session.
email candice@balancedlife-coaching.com
Life coaching is all about goals; setting them, measuring them and reaching them. But what is a goal? Can you picture what goals you have? There is a good chance you are unable to visualise what life coaching can do for you so here are some coaching goals to get your arms around.
If one of these goals rings true with you then book an exploratory session to look further at how life coaching could help you reach these goals and more. It’s free, helpful and there is no obligation to start a coaching alliance.
email candice@balancedlife-coaching.com
Critical psychology teaches us that our social world and our perception of the world is based on our experiences and our experiences are based on our attitudes, culture and up bringing, which in turn are effected by culture and are historically contextual. It is important to understand that our perceptions do not in anyway reflect others perceptions, they are our own creations. It is further necessary to understand that no one directly verbalises their inner thoughts, fears and attitudes. These are entirely contextual and are based on the available information and what is the persons desired outcome of the communication.
When this is realised it is easy to understand how communication break downs can occur.
When you are requesting change first consider:
How many times have you said or heard said “oh that is what you meant, I thought you were telling me ……
This occurs due to a persons brain fore-thinking what the other person is about to say this then forms the bases of what is said rather than what is actually said.
So today we have looked at perceptions and how they can be altered but also how simple steps can allow much truer perceptions to be created and allowing for much less misunderstandings in our communications.
Life coaching has become so popular in recent years that everybody is at it, either being one, using one or both, since everyone can benefit from coaching. The impact of its popularity leave many confused and can also lead to misunderstanding of the profession, many coaches are now choosing to specialise in areas such as writing, small business, spirituality, relationship, sabbatical coaching. Do not think that to get a life coach you need to know immediately what area of your life you want to work on if you are uncertain choose life/personal coaching, choose a Niche coach ones you have used a personal/life coach.
So how do you choose a coach well to begin with look at several of the bio pages of coaches there are several directories such as find a coach, Association for coaching
There are two broad areas of coaching executive coaching and Life/personal coaching these are relatively straight forward.
Other types of specialist coaching.
Relationship coaches – will focus on relationship perhaps not necessarily just romantic relationship.
Career coaching – This forwards your career.
Spiritual Life coaches will focus on the spiritual side of all aspects of your life adjusting your thinking to reflect a more spiritual path. This method can assist considerably with the life-work balance.
Sabbatical coaching – will assist you to make the most of a sabbatical.
Cross-cultural coaching - It should never be underestimated the stress a move can have on a person but imagine how much more stressful if can be to move culture entirely. This coaching is often solicited by companies for their employees.
Sports or exercise coaches will assist you optimise your health through exercise.
This list is endless but I have listed a few to give you an idea for inspiration.
The law of attraction is a popular metaphysical thought on how things happen and are attained. A major resource on understanding the law of attraction is the movie “The Secret”. Which tells the story of a lady who discovers the power of the ancient idea of the law of attraction. It has a commentary of professionals confirming and explaining how it work.
The basic premise of the Law of Attraction is that whatever you focus on or ask for that is what you will receive. So if you tell yourself you are no good at Maths, that is what you will receive the lack of ability to do Maths.
Ways to harness the law of Attraction.
The short answer is ” it’s not” when you consider what is involved.
If something costs next to nothing there is a tendency to value it less. A major requirement for Life coaching is commitment to the relationship and effort put into the change. The age old saying “you get out what you put in to it” rings particularly true for life coaching. For many Life coaching is considered out of reach because of the cost however for those who have taken the plunge the cost of not having it, becomes much greater.
If you commit to life coaching fully it can, based on the focus you choose, generate a healthier happier life which will pay out in improved health, increased creativity, greater flexibility of thought, improved self esteem, create space and time in your life.
eg. If you focus on relationship coaching and learn to improve one relationship it will inevitably show you the way forward for all relationship. i.e. co-workers, bosses, employees. This slight change to your thought patterns or way you present or think of yourself, could eventually improve your working life and perhaps pave the way to promotions.
Don’t think of coaching as just a 1 hour session a week. It also involves mental and physical exercises during the week which will pave the way to change. A coach puts great thought and consideration into your individual needs, sources resources and plans out exercises to assist you. Life coaches will generally coach only a few people at a time.
